Monday, May 24, 2010

Over the Rainbow

Took the little man to a birthday party for a classmate on Saturday. It was a beautiful day and the party was held at a local 4H Club set on a farm, complete with pony rides for the kiddies. His entire class was there, which was really nice. Got to chat with a few parents while the little man discovered pigs, cows and other barnyard animals.

The only problem I had was that I couldn't figure out for the life of me who the Mom was. I wanted to compliment whoever she was on her choice for the party location. Was it the short brunette welcoming everyone or the tall blonde coralling the kiddies for the pony rides? I finally gave up and, blushing a wee bit, asked a fellow Mom, "Which one is Teddy's Mom?". She pointed her out, "Over there by the barn." And then she pointed her out again, "Over there by the pony."
"Well which one is she?"
"Both," she stated rather matter-of-factly.
"Oh!" Sorry, wasn't that good at hiding my shock.
"Yes, we have a few rainbow families here."

The other one has two kids with a third one on the way. See, she goes to another Scandinavian country to get artificially inseminated each time. She's a single Mom and gay.

Though Swedes might not be the friendliest of folk, they sure are accepting and tolerant. Little man has been going to this school for almost a year and this is the first time I hear about this. It's a non-issue so why would I have been actively told about this? And I certainly never would have guessed either.

This sort of brings up the whole How-to-explain-this-stuff to the almost 4-year old. But he's never asked. Not sure that he's at that stage yet...the stage of thinking to ask or understanding the response. Any advice for when that day comes? I guess it would be pretty easy:
Teddy has two Mommies. You have a Mommy and a Daddy. Every family is different.

Just another day in Sweden.


septembermom said...

I think it's great to raise your son in such an atmosphere that celebrates a rainbow family.

He is so handsome! I love the expression on his face. A cutie!!

Hyacynth said...

I think that's the best explanation you can give: "All families are different." Leave the in-depth conversation for when he's a smidge older, like 7 or 8. This is one of those responding vs reacting things. A good response that really helps teach him your thoughts on it take a bit of careful planning.

Mon said...

"Teddy has two Mommies. You have a Mommy and a Daddy. Every family is different."

yup. :)

SwedishJenn said...

Thanks Team! I'll wait it out. I don't think he's any the wiser at this stage.

theinfo said...

This is very greatful and informatic helpful Can I quote a post in your blog with the link

to you? i want to book mark it !

india tour travel, rajasthan tour in



lodge bandhavgarh, wildlife resorts in bandhavgarh, resorts in bandhavgarh, hotels in


kings lodge

resort in booking

kings lodge

activities,bandhavgarh wildlife tour packages, kings lodge


lodge resort bandhavgarh,kings lodge resort booking in india, activities in kings lodge